• Dr Samir Vyas

10 Good Reasons Why Your Daughter Needs Pre-Marriage Guidance

Updated: Jun 9, 2020

1)Does she know the main reason behind the decision of getting married?
Funny isn’t it? She is all gung ho about getting married but many couples do not really know the reason behind this very important decision.

Is she getting married because they have been seeing each other for too long? Is this because she is very lonely?

Does your daughter want to tie the knot because she is thinking this could be the only chance she has for a relationship? Does she think that her age is a factor for this decision?

Whatever the reason, none of these should be the actual reasons, marriage is not the solution for problems, look at it in a different light and learn not to link different issues together. 

2)What are their long-term goals as couple?

As a couple, they must ensure they discuss their long-term goals together. This will help them to know each other’s thinking and help to know about the compatibility factor. Ensure they discuss the career plans as well as family issues that will help you to assess the situation and take effective decisions accordingly. It will also help to know if you are on the same page about certain issues. 

3)What is their compatibility level as a couple?
How compatible are they as a couple? Does she always adjust for the sake of the relationship or is it the other way round?

Couples today need to understand each other completely before saying the words, ‘I Do’. A compromise is always fine in any relationship but it should not happen all the time. Compatibility is very essential to have a successful and happy marriage. 

4)Has She checked about the responsibilities after marriage?

Love can make you overlook certain issues, which hold a lot of importance after marriage. Marriage means a lot of responsibilities and this should be something a couple should be prepared for. A couple therefore needs to talk about it before they plan to get married. These responsibilities would include a lot of things on a daily basis. They would need to decide about the distribution of some of these responsibilities as well. 

5) What are her expectations from her partner?

Amongst pre marriage questions, this is also one of the most important ones. Couples before marriage, lead a normal life. Post marriage, most things may have a different angle to it. What are her expectations from her partner? It is very important they sort out these issues before they decide to marry. Both of them need to specify the kind of role they would be playing post marriage. This would help her to get a clear picture about the same. 

6)What about the customs and traditions?

If the couple hails from different backgrounds, then they would need to keep in mind how both would adjust to each other’s customs and traditions. Things as a steady couple may seem different before marriage and post marriage. After marriage, such issues may prove to be a hindrance to those who may not have paid much heed to it in advance.

7)What about the acceptance of families?
If they already have the acceptance of families, then they would need to keep in mind about maintaining the relations as well. The couple needs to define what is expected from each other towards both families.

Maintaining good relations with both families helps in developing better bonds. It would also mean your children have loving grandparents as well. Try to get to know each others families. This will help you to strengthen your bond as couple as well. If family approval is a difficult matter, would you be able to take that all important step without their approval? For this, you need to sort out your priorities and know that you would probably have to be very firm about decisions.

8)How is she going to balance her career and family life?

9)Does she know all about the Role of Sex in Marriage?

10)What are her anxieties about marriage? ...These and several such important questions are answered in our premarriage assessment counseling.


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